WHAT IS UP WITH THE BIG HUNT AND CHASE?
Friday, March 12, 2010 at 4:06PM 
After being out of the dating scene for so long, I realize that there is so much that I do not understand. I feel like a fish out of water, yet I keep trying to swim.
I just don't get the whole game. Why do people feel the need to play games when dating? Is it really that fun?
In my opinion I feel that we should be able to say who we are and if someone doesn't like you for who you are, ALL OF YOU, then I say don't let the door hit you on the ass on the way out!
Seriously, we can all try to put on some act to try to be what we THINK the other person is looking for etc.. But, really how long can you keep it up? And how friggin' exhausting, I don't have the time or the desire for that kind of game.
I get the whole men want to hunt crap, really. But c'mon already, isn't the goal for you to find what you are hunting for? If a woman feels the same way why in the hell can't she just say so? Why do we have to play all coy and continue to let you chase us?? Isn't the fun part liking one another and exploring the possibility of where things can go? Or, even just having fun while it lasts and not waste all this time unnecessarily playing cat and mouse.
I like a challenge much like anyone else but becomes daunting after awhile. If you don't get what you want then chances are that you are gonna move on to something else. If you are playing games with someone whether it is a man or woman and they don't get it or want to play then they will find someone that does want to play.
I know I am only 36 yrs old, but I have been through some pretty crazy stuff in my life and it keeps on a coming. I am just as scared as the next person to get hurt etc.. But as scary as that is I feel that I owe it to myself to take a chance.
How will you ever know how great something can be without taking that leap??? I have fallen before and I am quite sure I will fall again but that is just the chance that I am willing to take. I hope that you guys do the same!!! =)
I guess what I am asking you all: Is the game playing worth letting someone good pass you by?
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Jen
I feel your pain. The answer to your question is no, games are not worth letting someone good pass you by. However the question is not addressing the bigger picture. Does the hunter value the pray as a toy or dinner.
Sorry to say but this is not just a man thing dear. I have done it and been the recipient of it. The hunt is fun. It is also fun to play. I think any hunter when ready to eat, will eat. The game of dating can be fun. It is exciting to discover new people. For some people it is fun to see how far you can get with someone, even if you have no long-term plans. I think when even a player decides that he/she has found what they are truly looking for they will shut a good bit of the games down or at least make you think they have.
If someone is still playing cat and mouse to quote the movie “he just is not that into you”.
I myself am crazy picky and a lot of that is because I think, “Do I want this person part of my child’s life”. Still it is fun to play and I try and find that balance to not hurt someone in the process. I have been called to cautious and to protective. Fact was I did not think they, would be an appropriate role model for my children. Other times they hung around and out of sure boredom, I continued to play.
If you have taken that leap and they are still at the top of the cliff, good chance they just do not want to jump with you. It sucks and it hurts. They may like you enough to keep you in their life but a good chance you are looking for another hard fall when they find what they want to eat or you are headed to the friend zone. You have to decided what it is worth to you.