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Jen

I feel your pain. The answer to your question is no, games are not worth letting someone good pass you by. However the question is not addressing the bigger picture. Does the hunter value the pray as a toy or dinner.

Sorry to say but this is not just a man thing dear. I have done it and been the recipient of it. The hunt is fun. It is also fun to play. I think any hunter when ready to eat, will eat. The game of dating can be fun. It is exciting to discover new people. For some people it is fun to see how far you can get with someone, even if you have no long-term plans. I think when even a player decides that he/she has found what they are truly looking for they will shut a good bit of the games down or at least make you think they have.

If someone is still playing cat and mouse to quote the movie “he just is not that into you”.

I myself am crazy picky and a lot of that is because I think, “Do I want this person part of my child’s life”. Still it is fun to play and I try and find that balance to not hurt someone in the process. I have been called to cautious and to protective. Fact was I did not think they, would be an appropriate role model for my children. Other times they hung around and out of sure boredom, I continued to play.

If you have taken that leap and they are still at the top of the cliff, good chance they just do not want to jump with you. It sucks and it hurts. They may like you enough to keep you in their life but a good chance you are looking for another hard fall when they find what they want to eat or you are headed to the friend zone. You have to decided what it is worth to you.