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Jean Harris Quote on Bachelors

Quote: Loving an old bachelor is always a no-win situation, and you come to terms with that early on, or you go away.



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["J"]

LOL, I wish I figured this out a little earlier! I actually relocated myself for an "old bachelor" and wasted 6 months of my life. Ultimately, it was a no-win situation. I think I was the first in a series of girlfriends he supposedly wanted to marry. He was married for over a decade and when I began dating him, he had just been divorced. I was unable to feel safe with him mostly because he could not accept responsibility for his part in the break down of his marriage. He blamed his ex-wife entirely and worse, he bad mouthed her every chance he got. Yet at the same time, he was always calling me by her name "accidentally." At first, I was very jealous of her. After a while I learned more about her and began to see her as a real person who actually seemed pretty great. In the end, the guy didn't have much integrity and he sure didn't have any respect for a commitment as sacred as marriage. Wish I would have recognized all of this a lot earlier on and really wished I had just walked away. I was only with him for 6 months but it took me a lot longer than that to get over what he did to me.

[Jennifer Haight Brody]

I hear ya sister sledge!!!!! The ones that I have encountered have been essentially life long bachelors. I think that when you are not used to having someone else there all the time the transition is harder then if you have had that at one time. Penetrating that barrier can prove insurmountable real fast and thats when you have know to cut and run. Its not a bad thing to want to remain single, but just be honest about it. Luckily for me with the two that I met they have been honest about that. Now, for me as a mother of three kids its appealing from the stand point of no kids no ex wives to deal with and that is a blessing. I know not all ex's are bad don't get me wrong, I'm not!. :-D

It sounds like you went through the gammut with that gem of a man!!! Dating can be so great yet so crappy at the same time. Good luck with your search. I know I need all the luck I can get.

jen