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Fri, 16 Jul 2010 14:56:01 +0000

Now this one makes me feel better about some of the bad dating decisions I've made along the way. For a long time, I kicked myself for putting myself in harms way and ignoring red flag after red flag. But this quote is so true. If I hadn't taken a chance, I would have always wondered "what if." This was a good reminder - and timely too! Thanks Jen!! I'm digging this site and your topics are interesting and relevant to a lot of people. You should advertise!!

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Jennifer Haight Brody — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 03:54:35 +0000

I think it means that we should love people even if they hurt us but don't hurt the people that love us;

duhhhhh B!!!! lol jk

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Jennifer Haight Brody — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 03:46:44 +0000

I hear ya sister sledge!!!!! The ones that I have encountered have been essentially life long bachelors. I think that when you are not used to having someone else there all the time the transition is harder then if you have had that at one time. Penetrating that barrier can prove insurmountable real fast and thats when you have know to cut and run. Its not a bad thing to want to remain single, but just be honest about it. Luckily for me with the two that I met they have been honest about that. Now, for me as a mother of three kids its appealing from the stand point of no kids no ex wives to deal with and that is a blessing. I know not all ex's are bad don't get me wrong, I'm not!. :-D

It sounds like you went through the gammut with that gem of a man!!! Dating can be so great yet so crappy at the same time. Good luck with your search. I know I need all the luck I can get.

jen

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"J" — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 01:24:20 +0000

LOL, I wish I figured this out a little earlier! I actually relocated myself for an "old bachelor" and wasted 6 months of my life. Ultimately, it was a no-win situation. I think I was the first in a series of girlfriends he supposedly wanted to marry. He was married for over a decade and when I began dating him, he had just been divorced. I was unable to feel safe with him mostly because he could not accept responsibility for his part in the break down of his marriage. He blamed his ex-wife entirely and worse, he bad mouthed her every chance he got. Yet at the same time, he was always calling me by her name "accidentally." At first, I was very jealous of her. After a while I learned more about her and began to see her as a real person who actually seemed pretty great. In the end, the guy didn't have much integrity and he sure didn't have any respect for a commitment as sacred as marriage. Wish I would have recognized all of this a lot earlier on and really wished I had just walked away. I was only with him for 6 months but it took me a lot longer than that to get over what he did to me.

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Jennifer Haight Brody — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 16:20:11 +0000

Thanks Afan.....me too!!!!!!! Unfortunately kisses like that are few and far between. But, when you find someone that can kiss you like that you need to hold on tight!!!!! Its out there we just gotta find it and know it when we do, Good luck!

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Jennifer Haight Brody — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 16:18:01 +0000

WOW!!!! I feel you on so many levels B and commenter. I too have had and continue to have the unfortunate situation of having my kids paraded to each and every girlfriend and it drives me NUTS!!!! This is the only thing that I ever say anything to my ex husband about. The kids are confused and tell me of course what happens. I dont find out from HIM, its always from them AFTER he has introduced and on scary occasions after they have been told either by him or the flavor of the month that "I am definitely marrying your father". Seriously????? The scary thing for me is that he is able to continually find women with just as bad judgement as his. What the heck are the chances of that?

The only thing that any one of us can do is just be the rocks that our kids need us to be. My kids have NEVER met any one that I am dating. I have only introduced my kids to two different men at all and they are just friends, Bob being one of them. My kids have not lived with their father since they were 10 months, 3 and 5 so I realize just how easy it would be for them to get attatched to someone and if things didn't work out then have the torn out of their lives. That is just not something I am willing to do to them. I can see it with my two guy friends that they have met, especially Owen my now 6 yr old. The thought of that happening to him as the youngest is something that just isn't an option for me. My older two have had to try to understand the dating concept as a result of the plethora of women that they have met so they are a little more cautious.

I have had my kids ask me why I don't introduce them to my boyfriends, and I simply tell them its not what I think is best for them until its a serious enough relationship for them to be exposed to. And, I don't have one!! LOL I definitely date, but no "boyfriends". I have learned through this god awful process of dating hoe necessary it is to be especially choosy.

All we can do as parents of divorced children is to be the best example for them. They deserve our absolute best judgement and moral apptitude. They can and will only duplicate the type of relationship that they see modeled for them through us, their parents. So, I try to stop certain things from happening to them, but in the end all I can really do is model for them what I think is best for them.

Good luck all!!!!! :-D

Afan comments on funny quote for today

Afan — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 01:23:20 +0000

Love this!! It's been a loooong time since I've been good and kissed like that.

"J" comments on I was told a little white lie today.

"J" — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 15:32:15 +0000

Ooh, good topic. This hit close to home. It's amazing how some people who seem so intelligent and successful on the exterior can make some major bonehead decisions. And some are even more idiotic and make these same bad decisions over and over and over again. I have an ex like that and I try to look on the bright side and thank my lucky f'g stars that I'm not with that asshole anymore. He is somebody else's problem now. This bastard has done most all of the things you mentioned above. The ones that stuck out the most for me is that he is a liar and a serial dater. He thinks each woman he dates is "the one" and introduces them to the kids. He tells the kids he is going to marry these women and inevitably, it never works out because he always thinks the grass is greener somewhere else. He is just such a poor decision maker because he has a seriously flawed set of values, a crappy support system, bad instincts, impulsiveness, a poor understanding of himself and a weak grasp of what he wants out of life. He was the one who abruptly ended things between us, even though we were living together and I had a full relationship with his kids. I later found out that he was on match.com and other dating websites while he was still with me. It fucking tore me apart. That he could tell me in one breath that he wanted to marry me and all the while, he was out their trolling for women. What a scummy thing to do, especially to your kids. He probably knew he wasn't going to be able to fully commit and was just using me to fill a selfish need of his for a while, until someone better came along. I don't understand how someone can know this about themselves and yet have no problem messing with their kids heads. And from what I hear, he continues to repeat the same selfish behavior and puts his kids in harms way over and over again. He sets them up for disappointment and doesn't seem to give a shit what it's doing to them. Losing the relationship with his kids was just as horrible for me as it was for the kids. I was completely beside myself at losing them. He did not even give me a chance to say goodbye or to do this the right way for THEM. I can't iimagine the conclusions they must have come to on their own. And they were so little, this is beyond anything they could ever understand! I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one he has done this to. Not by a long shot. What is this teaching his kids? All I know is, one day, these kids are going to grow up and they're going to start asking questions. And when they do, they're going to find out a lot of unfortunate things about their dad and possibly lose respect for him. And that's probably only the tip of the iceberg about what it will mean for them.

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Bob — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 02:44:51 +0000

Strong words unregistered commenter! All the best to you!

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Bob — Mon, 28 Jun 2010 02:41:40 +0000

Yea I am just saying seeing, Old Yellow with you is my new nightmare.